Monday, October 12, 2009

2 For The Price Of 1

When God gives you more than you think you can handle, it's so typical to cock your head to the side, and wonder "why". Everyone says, (I'm sure with the best of intentions) "Oh, trust me, God doesn't give to those, whom he thinks can't handle xyz..." But isn't there a limit? Like, a cut off or something? You can't just keep pouring water into a glass that's already full, it just runs over, spills onto the floor, and makes an awful mess... I'm at that "awful mess" place. And believe me, it's not fun to clean up.When my daughter was diagnosed with Chron's Disease, it came as a relief. It was a short journey for us. Confusing and life threatening, yes. But only 6 months worth of doctors, tests, etc. But it is manageable. And we do manage. It doesn't effect her brain, only her GI tract. Our biggest hurdle, is trying to make a 16 year old responsible for taking her own medications!Nobody wants their child to have a debilitating, chronic, uncurable illness. But it's a reality that I, as a parent must face..... I just didn't realize that I was going to get 2 for the price of one.When Alex was just recently diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome (Autism) it too came as a relief, but not in the same way as his sister's diagnosis. With this, came depression, anxiety, worry about his future, etc. This has been a long journey, and it has only started. Summer's illness came right out of the blue. Symptom after symtpom. Bam.... just like that. She was totally healthy from birth, to one day as sick as I had ever seen any child. We'd get one sickness under control, and then get hit with another. As soon as we figured out what it was, it was better. This time, however, we aren't so lucky. And even as I sit here, watching my son spin around and around and around in repetitive circles, I find myself not totally understanding it at all.I read about different cases of Asperger's, and they all sound like my son, but then sometimes it doesn't sound like him at all. I still find myself questioning the facts, does he, doesn't he? Just when I have convinced myself that he doesn't, he goes off and totally does something completely Asperger's! How do you swallow that your child has a mental disorder, when on the outside he seems so dang normal sometimes? How do you figure out what's going on in his head, in order to help him? How do you win the fight with the school system, and make them see your child the way you do?I find it to be humorous, and sometimes, annoying when people say "Oh, I don't care if it's a boy or a girl, as long as he/she is healthy!"..... well, what if they aren't? Do you not love them?! Do you ask for a refund from the damaged good department of the hospital? People, this isn't Wal-Mart, where all you gotta have is a reciept to make it warm and fuzzy! This is life, and it is what we make it.... no more, no less. Count your blessings. Things could be better for some, and way worse for others. And I can't judge, without walking a day in your shoes. And even then, I can't judge, I'm too busy trying to find my own shoes, to worry about yours.So take if from someone, who has been given her share of "runneth over".... because I can assure you, not only is it running over, but it's making a big mess all over the floor..... and after I get done drowing in it, I'll have to clean it up as well.

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